Birds do it, bees do
it, and people are no different.
So
you're excited because you've decided to give a speed dating
a try.
There
are probably a few questions on your mind such as: should I go
alone?
What
should I wear? Or what kind of questions should I be asking
my potential dates?
Let me help you with
the answers:
Should I go alone?
You
can come alone or in a group. Most people do not bring "competition" and
come alone,
our
friendly hosts are there to make sure you do not feel awkward.
On the other
hand it is nice to have a friend with you to support you mentally
or
to compare each others
notes after the party.
Believe us, after
the speed dating starts, you usually get "tunnel vision"
and
only see and hear the person you are talking to and not
your friends.
How should I dress?
Dress presentable,
or as we call it, "casual to impress".
If you are coming straight
from work, wearing a polo shirt and jeans,
that is perfectly fine.
In fact coming in a work uniform can be beneficial to you,
because
it shows that you have a J.O.B. (assuming you are not a scuba
diving instructor).
I remember a gentleman
putting a name tag over a company logo on his t-shirt.
I am just
joking. In other words we
do not have an "official" dress code,
just
wear what you would wear on a date, dress presentable.
What questions should I ask fellow daters?
Be creative and funny. If you have
already noticed the next date's totally not your type,
politely tell that person
that you have a weak bladder and absolutely need to use a restroom.
However, we recommend that you give everybody a chance,
as they say-you never know what life has for you.
During
the conversation maintain eye contact.
Ask questions, and maybe
listen first to what your date has to say before you start
yapping about yourself.
Also you don't want to turn the conversation
into an interrogation.
Here
are some sample questions:
If you could choose any job/career what would it
be?
Who
is your favorite actor/actress?
If
we were eating pizza, what would you get on your half?
What
would you do if you won the lottery? How would we spend the
money, lol?
Don'ts:
Don't go off about politics, say "I don't like Bush" not "I
don't like Bush because, blah, blah, blah."
Do not make weird
compliments, like "I like your tights".
Try not to be too
A. D. D like "or, I am sorry, what was that?"
Make sure
your eyes are not wandering and/or checking other people in the room
while having a conversation with your date.
Avoid very short answers
like just "yes" or "no".
Do not finish your date's
sentences, even if you are very tempted.
Stay away from making any
impressions.
Do not talk about your past relationships.
On the first date people are
usually trying to see is there anything wrong with you, and if they feel
confident that you are alright,
they will be willing to go out on the
second date.
…etc. well, you get the idea;
do not be super
serious, you will have plenty of time for that on your second
date (assuming it is a mutual match),
rather, be creative.
The whole
point of speed dating is to see if you click, and to know
each other from the basics, but to have fun.
Checkout our FAQ page
for more answers to your important questions.
See you at the party.
Sincerely,
-Vilius
